are wired to process emotions. Watch any baby or infant.
They let us know clearly when they are happy and when they
are upset. When they are happy, they are fully happy. And
when they are upset or hurt, they are completely at one with
their feelings. There are no half measures. And then once
their feelings have been acknowledged, they completely let
go. (And until they are acknowledged, they persist!) They
have not yet been socialised into modifying and hence holding
on to those aspects of their emotions that are not socially
yet as babies and infants, the strength of our emotions can
scare us. We look to the adults around us for guidance on
how to deal with the fullness of our feelings and for the
vast majority of young ones there is little or no guidance
just containment and repression. If the child in unnerved
by explosive emotions, the adults are completely fazed.
allow ourselves to fully express the strength of our feelings
does not mean that we become social misfits. It means we
are allowing ourselves to acknowledge and have acknowledged
by the significant others in our lives, the impact on us
of certain actions or events. And with this acknowledgement
comes the opportunity to access the resources within that
enable us to become emotionally ept.
therapies, by helping us to process our strong emotions,
teach us how to grow into our emotional adulthood.